Let every man have a magic wand Part 1
If you aren’t attractive because it isn’t functioning properly and lets you down even when the occasion is perfect, then you too are suffering from erectile dysfunction. But things could be different…
How did you deserve this?
Don’t think that you receive sex – or anything else in life – because you deserve it. When you believe that you don’t have to lift a finger because things will just proceed on their own, that’s when you mess it up – maybe for your entire life.
What makes you content generally? Your relationship is fine; your career is developing; you have children and everyone is healthy. You find you have less and less time, but it’s no problem: you’re both understanding, and no one is slacking off. You even have sex once or twice a week, almost spontaneously. Unfortunately, though, often it’s not when you’re in the mood that you do it. You prefer mornings while your partner prefers nights or other times; you’re not in sync. This is understandable too: you’re leading different lives because of your work. These are trivialities; there are no problems; and love is there. Then why do you miss the following stage completely?
Love and sex both develop
Indeed, life pushes you hard in all areas. And speaking of work, you’ll soon understand what a toilsome activity sex is as well. At times it’s tiring even to think about it, although natural lubrication is produced the second you get excited. When you continue, well, that’s where the trouble lies. It is all too familiar and tiresome. Things are OK as long as the penis doesn’t become visibly limp. Could this mean your partner and you have grown apart? No, that’s not it: this just indicates a lack of workload; a kind of stagnation – but it could lead to problems later on.
The stages of development of DESIRE
Desire is the starting phase, and the most vulnerable phase at the same time. It is worthwhile to pay a lot of attention to it so that all may remain well. Desire can consciously be shaped; that is, it’s not completely involuntary. Let’s look at its stages using a simple model and see how we can shape things:
- virtual desire – there isn’t a specific object, only fantasies
- real desire – meeting someone new
- unstable or fluctuating desire – continuing the new relationship
- wavelike desire – the beginning of love
- exalted desire – love
- maximum desire/maximum satisfaction – period of frequent sexual intercourse
- permanent desire – a living, active love relationship
- turning point – a solid, aging relationship
- decreasing desire – a stable, stagnating relationship
- virtual desire – preparation for a new relationship
That is, the body regenerates and starts to prepare for the next cycle once the end of the current cycle comes into view. However, if you face the turning point with the right attitude, there will be no deterioration and you’ll be able to start rebuilding your relationship. This is not merely a continuation: it’s relationship development.
In the following sections I will write about training tips, the ability to develop desire, as well as other points of intervention – things that all men and women will be able to follow successfully.
HU
