The erogenous brain II.

Is libido dysfunction a typical problem in Hungary?
Sexual desire (also known as “libido”) exhibits a natural fluctuation which depends on the state of the body and the outside stimuli which act upon it. From time to time there is a decline; this is normal. A permanent libido dysfunction will be an obstacle to sex right at the beginning of intercourse; therefore lots of sexual dysfunctions are problems that are experienced as you start intercourse. It is very difficult to distinguish between a sexual dysfunction and a libido dysfunction or to find a clear initial form. According to our statistical estimate, a long-term(!) decline in libido may affect up to 60% percent of this country’s population. However, a complete lack of libido over a long time is much less frequent: it is around 5%. Fluctuation may also be seasonal: the warmer seasons have an invigorating effect on the body and there are also more opportunities to satisfy our desire. Weather fronts also have an effect on our sexuality; we had clear evidence of this during our clinic consultations.

How could we improve these figures?
The health crisis, the difficulties in the business world, and social problems may typically cause a decrease in sexual activity. Besides these we also find a lack of education and preparation in the subject of sex. It is the descendants of a generation receiving better sex education who will be making important advances in this area. There are ongoing preparations and there is support for this from several sides, even though a lot of the topics are subject to strong controversy. We may also receive huge amounts of information individually and make use of it instantly. This can make us feel hopeful even despite the many misconceptions that are being transmitted. The high ratings, the message boards, and other types of feedback let us know that there is a great demand for information about sex and that the various sources will be tested by the users based on their practical merit.

There is an outstanding demand for sex, and many people tend to make a connection between this and the spreading of various problems. That is, they write and talk about the huge problem that humanity is facing today. I don’t think this is right. In our experience, any branch of science that can attract this many people and can help this many people on a daily basis is truly blessed. This level of interest could even be used to teach the basics of modern physics, economics, or any other type of science. It’s important for laypeople to develop a longing to understand sciences more in order that they may have a better understanding of life and create their own solutions to make their lives more pleasant. This is not impossible if the transmission of knowledge is such that it may create the desired knowledge from which one may benefit instantly. Sex education, if it’s extensive and colorful enough, may contain the elements of all the basic sciences – and this is a huge opportunity.

Genetics, or a state of mind?
Some people inherently have a smaller libido. In those whose sexuality is not yet fully developed there are all kinds of deflections in this. But later it will become evident whose libido levels will remain on a lower level. Because there are many other reasons influencing this besides genetics, it may happen even with someone with talent that we never see this talent manifest itself in life. A messed up sexual life will definitely not benefit one’s libido, whether there’s talent or not.

In general, however, it can be said that people who are sexually attractive are often “born” with a bigger libido and this is reflected in the way other people sense this and want to initiate a closer relationship. In turn, these people are inspired by this mass positive response, and it serves to further increase their sexual appeal. Where it’s only the appearance that’s attractive – one’s way of speaking, one’s smile – but not the way they move, there we don’t have this sexual appeal behind the good looks. But this appeal, which is something that can’t be seen but can very clearly be felt, can be developed in everyone. After only a few days’ work, any healthy male or female may be made much more attractive: people will notice them more and ask them out on dates; they will grow in the eyes of both friends and strangers. They will appear to be illuminated by a certain light. Those couples whose relationship has become somewhat dull will naturally get more excited in each other’s company, and the difference will not only be apparent in the intensity and frequency of sex.

This doesn’t only happen to people who travel on foot and thereby have more opportunities to make acquaintances. It can also happen between people driving that something gradually develops between them: the man follows the woman in his car, they go to a restaurant, have lunch separately, they leave at the same time, and then the man steps up to the woman in the parking lot, introduces himself, and hands over his business card so that they don’t lose each other… This is amazing inspiration for both the woman’s femininity and the man’s masculinity. Apart from the very last incident, all the other events took place from a distance, without words, only through the eyes and thoughts. This is how it happened, and there are lots of other “tales” on the same subject.

How can you increase and maintain your libido?
The increases in sexual appeal, as described above, may turn into a daily “routine” if there’s something to set them off: for example, meeting someone new, flirting with people, losing weight, choosing the right clothing, or traveling to see new things and meet new people. The creation or increase of sexual appeal is a professional secret in sexology, but it’s everyone’s personal responsibility to maintain and nurture it once it’s created. You can’t let your good results deteriorate over time and go around in the world like an asexual person. But those who understand what an incredible state this is to be in will surely take good care of it anyway.